Dialogue between a mother and her child in her womb

Mom : Assalamualaikum my dear. How are you today?

Baby : Waalaikumussalam my dear mom. I'm feeling good today mom. But there are something growing out from my body!!! (his arms & legs) what are these mom? I don't like it. It keeps getting in my way. I can't move as freely as I used to be before!

Mom : Owh that are your hands and your legs my darling. Alhamdulillah, you are growing as you should.

Baby : Can you make it go away mom? I don't need these hands and legs. They are of no use to me now.

Mom : You must not say that! Be grateful dear. You will need them when you are born. You will need it to walk on this earth. To be Allah's servant. You will be in such a great loss if you don't have them in the future.

End of conversation...

The baby doesn't know the difficulties that he is going to face on the earth if he doesn't have any hands or legs. Because he never used it in the womb. For him, his world is his mom's womb.

Can you see how similar we are and the baby? We have never ever encounter the life after death. We only know the world as the earth that we are living now. Just like an innocence baby. Our amal ma'ruf as our arms and legs in akhirah. We can live without them in this world right? But what about in akhirah? Can we leave without them? And we have been given so many reminders and guidances from Allah through His messenger and The Book, Quran. Who else can we trust if not our GOD, Allah? Think bout it ^_^

Reasons To Smile

1. Smiling makes us attractive

We are drawn to people who smile. There is an attraction factor. We want to know a smiling person and figure out what is so good. Frowns, scowls and grimaces all push people away ,but a smile draws them in.

2.Smiling changes our mood

Next time you are feeling down, try putting on a smile. There's a good chance you mood will change for the better. Smiling can trick the body into helping you change your mood.

3. Smiling is Contagious

When someone is smiling they lighten up the room, change the moods of others, and make things happier. A smiling person brings happiness with them. Smile lots and you will draw people to you.

4. Smiling Relieves Stress

Stress can really show up in our faces. Smiling helps to prevent us from looking tired, worn down, and overwhelmed. When you are stressed, take time to put on a smile. The stress should be reduced and you'll be better able to take action.

5. Smiling Boosts Your Immune System

Smiling helps the immune system to work better. When you smile, immune function improves possibly because you are more relaxed. revent the flu and colds by smiling.

6. Smiling Lowers Your Blood Pressure

When you smile, there is a measurable reduction in your blood pressure. Give it a try if you have a blood pressure monitor at home.Sit for a few minutes, take a reading. Then smile for a minute and take another reading while still smiling. Do you notice a difference?

7. Smiling Releases Endorphins, Natural Pain Killers and Serotonin

Studies have shown that smiling releases endorphins, natural pain killers, and serotonin. Together these three make us feel good. Smiling is a natural drug.

8. Smiling Lifts the Face and Makes You Look Younger

The muscles we use to smile lift the face, making a person appear younger. Don't go for a face lift, just try smiling your way through the day! you'll look younger and feel better.

9. Smiling Makes You Seem Successful

Smiling people appear more confident, are more likely to be promoted, and more likely to be approached. Put on a smile at meetings and appointments and people will react to you differently.

10. Smiling Helps You Stay Positive

Try this test: Smile. Now try to think of something negative without losing the smile. It's hard. When we smile our body is sending the rest of us a message that "Life is Good!" Stay away from depression, stress and worry by smiling.

FRIENDSHIP - Tips For A Special Relationship

Friendship is a most beautiful thing happened to human being. We all meet some people with whom we never had a kinship, but they become so special in our life that it becomes hard to live without them. Let us see some points we should consider while playing a role in friendship. Many poets have described friendship as one of the most fascinating bond we ever make in our life. It's the most beautiful thing that happens to us.

Friendship is a relation that is entirely based on trust, belief of two friends in each other. We come across many things in our lives, about which we do not tell anything to people near and dear to us, but we freely tell everything to our friends. Many people find good friends but they fail to continue with their friendship, because they do not know their role as a friend.Let us see some important points that we should take care of if we wish to be good friend for someone:

Be a secrete admirer of your friend:

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  If your friend is good at something then do not praise him/her in his/her presence. Praising a person for what he/she is good, does not improve his/her qualities, but can cause over-confidence to be induced in him/her, which surely will be harmful for your friend. A good friend should never miss an opportunity to praise his/her friend in front of others when he/she is not around.

Don't proved him/her wrong in public:

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  As it is important not to praise a friend openly in his/her presence, it is also very much important to abstain from proving him/her wrong in front of other people. Take him/her away from the crowd and let him/her know where he/she is wrong. There is no point in proving your friend wrong in other's presence; it will spoil your friend's image in other's view. And additionally your friendship will be in danger.

Try to understand your friend:

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  It is always important to understand what your friend is worried about or what problems he/she is facing. Always try to understand the situation your friend is in and try to soothe him/her. It is evident that if people are undergoing some problems, they will not speak up their problems to their brothers or sisters, they will instead tell everything to their friends. Let your friend speak up, just listen to him/her and be with him/her until your friend does not come out of frustration.

Pull Your Friend Away From Making Mistakes:

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  If your friend is doing something wrong, it is your duty to let him/her know it at earliest. Keep in mind; best friend has to play a role of critic if he/she wants his/her friend to stop doing wrong things. But again keep in mind not to show your friends mistakes in front of other people. Sometimes it is important to understand your friend's intentions behind his/her actions and try to analyze situation, then only you should give your opinion.

The Ego Problem:

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  Never let ego spoil your friendship. It is no reason to be jealous if your friend is not at all able to speak to you and is with someone else, you have to be his/her friend, do not expect word of gratitude from the person you think is your friend. Sometimes there could be a clash between you and your friend, and you both stop talking to each other for some time, it is not at all wrong to speak first and say sorry to your friend, no matter what happens.

Try to Teach Good Things:

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  If you are a true friend, you should never give your hungry friend a fish, instead, you should teach him/her how to fish, this will give your friend food for lifetime. A good friend will never wish his/her friend to be dependent on someone.

Do Not Interfere:

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  Most important point that one should take care of is that your friend has his/her own life and you should not interfere in his/her life. You have a right to tell your friend what is good and what is bad, but you do not have a right to make someone do what you wish. Hope this will help you out solve some of your problems you are facing in friendship.

Kuasa Seorang Perempuan...

KUASA LAYANAN PEREMPUAN

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  Kaum lelaki mudah goyah dan alah dengan layanan yang baik, apa lagi dari perempuan yang sangat dikasihi seperti isteri dan ibu. Layanan baik yang disalurkan kepada orang yang berhak menerimanya, bukan sahaja mendatangkan keredhaan Allah tetapi memungkinkan apa yang diminta akan dipenuhi dengan mudah.

KUASA DOA PEREMPUAN

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  Doa perempuan lebih makbul dari lelaki kerana sifat penyayangnya lebih kuat dari lelaki. Sebagaimana hadis Rasulullah saw: "Doa ibu itu lebih cepat makbul." Orang bertanya:"Kenapa ya Rasulllah?" Jawab baginda : "Ibu lebih penyayang dari bapa dan doa dari orang yang penyayang tidak akan sia-sia."

KUASA TAQWA PEREMPUAN

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  Ketaqwaan adalah kuasa paling sempurna dan terbaik dalam menangani apa jua masalah. Orang yang paling bertaqwa adalah orang yang paling dikasihi Allah. Allah tidak akan membiarkan orang yang dikasihiNya melainkan dipelihara serta sentiasa dirahmatiNya.
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  Kuasa taqwa lebih mudah diperolehi oleh perempuan berbanding lelaki kerana kehalusan budi yang ada pada perempuan adalah merupakan penjara daripada melakukan hal-hal yang mendatangkan dosa. Berbanding lelaki yang sebahagian hidupnya berada di luar rumah serta terdedah kepada pelbagai godaan, cubaan dan ujian.
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  Kekuasaan taqwa ini pula adalah kemuliaan yang diberikan oleh Allah swt sehingga setiap lelaki pasti memerlukan perempuan untuk menghirupkan udara ini atau dalam perkataan lain setiap lelaki pasti dilahirkan oleh perempuan kecuali Nabi Adam a.s. Sekuat-kuat lelaki, kuat lagi perempuan kerana lelaki itu sendirinya datang dari perut perempuan yang menghamilkannya dan melahirkannya ke dunia, kemudian melatih, mendidik, memelihara dari kecil hingga dewasa.
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  Kemuliaan perempuan akan lebih nyata, jika ditambah dengan ketaatan kepada kaum lelaki yang berhak atasnya sebagaimana maksud hadis Rasulullah saw: "Perempuan yang taat kepada suaminya, semua burung di udara, ikan di air, malaikat di langit, matahari dan bulan : semuanya beristighfar baginya (isteri) selagi mana ia masih taat kepada suaminya dan diredhainya (serta menjaga solat dan puasannya.

ni aku attached few pictures time mjls kahwin cousin kpd husband aku...only yg cute2 je..:) from time 2 time, aku aku attach lg gmbr2...tp kena tunggu 'kelapangan' yg aku ada laaa...hehehehe...

stay tuned!

HAPPY 28th BIRTHDAY!

Happy Birthday to you...happy birthday to you...happy birthday to DYA...happy birthday to you...:)


Wah...da 28 tahun rupanya aku ni...hehehe...actually, semalam birthday aku...30hb Mac... rasanya mcm baru kemarin jak aku celebrate birthday yg ke 18 tahun...kahkahkah...perasan plak!


Sedar x sedar...masa begitu pantas blalu...jika dulu aku single...pastu jadi isteri...tup2 x lama lagi da nak jadi "mommy" plak...:) bdebar2 rasa hati bl mhitung hari...yg pasti, aku da mula bsedia dr segi fizikal dan mental utk mnempuh fasa baru dlm hidup aku...


Mudah2an...dgn pningkatan usia ini akan mematangkan serta mjadikan diri lebih cekal dan kuat dlm mnempuh hari2 yg mdatang...insya-Allah!

Hidup Terlalu Singkat Untuk Membenci

Ah, terlalu sukar untuk memberi maaf. Bahkan lebih sukar daripada meminta maaf. Masih terasa tusukan rasa bagaikan sebuah dendam yang membara. Masih terngiang-ngiang segala kata. Masih terbayang semua tingkah dan perlakuan. Wajah 'orang-orang bersalah' itu terasa begitu menjengkelkan. Memberi maaf kepada mereka seolah-olah menggadaikan harga diri. Ah, apakah maruah ini terlalu murah untuk di sorong tarik dengan harga yang rendah? Dan cukup sakit, apabila mengenangkan 'musuh-musuh' itu tersenyum dengan kemenangan.

Namun, itu hanya bisik 'hati besarku'. Yang melantunkan suara ego dan marah. Kesat dan kesumat. Tetapi jauh dari dalam diri...ada suara lain yang bergetar. 'Hati kecil' yang tidak jemu-jemu mengingatkan. Suara tulus yang mendamaikan gelombang jiwa. Bisik telus yang meredakan amukan rasa.Maafkan, lupakan...cintai, sayangi...Berperang dengan mereka bererti berperang dengan diri sendiri. Begitu bisik hati kecil itu selalu.

Pada sebuah persimpangan rasa, tiba-tiba hati disapa oleh sebuah firman:"Tolaklah kejahatan dengan sebuah kebaikan.Nescaya engkau akan mendapati musuhmu akan menjadi seolah-olah saudara"Wahai diri,api jangan dilawan dengan api. Nanti bakarannya akan membakar diri sendiri. Menyimpan dendam sama seperti membina sebuah gunung berapi di dalam hati. Semakin besar dendam itu, maka semakin sakit hati yang menanggungnya. Musuh-musuh mu terus ketawa, sedangkan kau sendiri menderita meneguk bisa.Musim-musim terus berlalu sewajarnya mendewasakan aku. Pengalaman lampau sentiasa membuktikan bahawa permusuhan hanya akan memberi kepuasan sementara. Apabila 'fatamorgana' itu berlalu. Aku akan menjadi lebih dahaga daripada sebelumnya. Apakah akan ku terjah perangkap itu berkali-kali? Oh,tidak. Mukmin tidak akan terperosok dalam lubang yang sama dua kali. Begitu maksud sebuah sabda. Justeru? Cukup sekali!Biarlah musuh itu ketawa sepuas-puasnya. Beban rasa ini biarlah aku letakkan. Tidak akan ku bawa dalam safar kehidupan yang pendek ini. Hidup terlalu singkat untuk membenci. Bermusuh dengan orang lain, sama seperti bermusuh dengan diri sendiri. Memaafkan orang lain,sama seperti memaafkan diri sendiri. Kata bijak pandai: "Apa yang kita berikan akan kita terima kembali"Ah, betapa leganya sekarang...Benarlah bahawa kebaikan itu tampak sukar untuk dilaksanakan. Pahit. Sakit. Tetapi apabila dilaksanakan akan terasa kemanisannya. Manakala kejahatan itu tampak mudah, indah dan manis. Namun apabila dilakukan, pasti ada kekesalan, kepahitan dan keresahan. Ketika ini terasa benar apa yang selalu didengar di dalam tazkirah - yang punya tabsyir dan inzar - bahawa dosa itu sesuatu yang meresahkan. Dendam itu dosa. Memaafkan itu pahala. Memaafkan menjemput datangnya 'syurga' yang fana, sebelum syurga yang baqa'.

Kini hatiku tertanya-tanya lagi...siapa aku, yang begitu sukar memaafkan? Tuan? Tuhan. Aku hanya hamba. Sedangkan DIA Sang Pencipta itu Maha Pemaaf, Maha Pengampun, siapa aku yang kerdil ini untuk terus berdendam? Ya ALLAH, ampunkan aku. Sengaja atau tanpa sengaja, sering atau kekadang...aku 'terlanjur' menumpang hak-MU..

Oleh : Ustaz Pahrol Mohamad Juoi

* Beliau merupakan penulis jemputan di majalah ANIS. Artikel dipetik daripada majalah ANIS keluaran Disember 2007.