BEAUTIFUL RECEPTION
After returning from work, school, travle, or whatever has seperated you:
- Begin with a good greeting.
- Start with salam and a smile. Salam is a sunnah and a doa for her as well.
- Shake her hand and leave the bad news for later!
SWEET SPEECH AND ENCHANTING INVITATIONS
- Choose words that are positive and avoid negatives ones.
- Give her your attention when you speak of she speaks.
- Speak with clarity and repeat words if necessary until she understands.
- Call her with the nice names that she likes, e.g. my sweet-heart, honey etc.
FRIENDLINESS AND RECREATION
- Spend time talking together.
- Spread to her goods news.
- Remember your good memories together.
ASSISTANCE IN THE HOUSEHOLD
- Doing what you as an individual can or like to do that helps out, especially if she sick or tired.
- The most important thing is making it obvious that you APPRECIATE her hard work.
CONSULTATION (SYURA)
- Specifically in family matters.
- Giving her the feeling that her opinion is important to you.
- Studying her opinion carefully.
- Be willing to change an opinion for hers if it is better.
- Thanking her for helping you with her opinions.
CONDUCT DURING TRAVEL
- Offer a warm farewell and good advice.
- Ask her to do'a for you.
- Ask relatives and friends to take care of the family in your absence.
- Give her enough moey for what she might need.
- Try to stay in touch with her whether by phone, e-mail, letters, etc...
- Return as soon as possible.
- Bring her a gift!
- Avoid returning at an unexpected time or at night.
- Take her with you if possible.
FINANCIAL SUPPORT
- The husband needs to be generous within his financial capabilities. He should not be a miser with his money (nor wasteful).
- He gets rewards for all what he spends on her substances even for a small piece of bread that he feeds her by his hands (hadith).
- He is strongly encouraged to give to her before she asks him.
Wallahu'alam...
