How To Make Your Wife Happy? - Part 2

INTERCOURSE

• Start with "Bismillah" and the authentic doa.
• Enter into her in the proper place only (not the anus).
• Avoid intercourse during the monthly period because it is haram.

AIDING IN THE OBEDIENCE TO ALLAH

• Wake her up in the last third of the night to pray "Qiyam-al-Lail" (extra prayer done at night).
• Teach her what you know of the Qur'an and Hadith.
• Take her to Hajj and Umrah when you can afford to do so.

PATIENCE AND MILDNESS

• Problems are expected in every marriage so this is normal. What is wrong is excessive responses and magnifying problems until a martial breakdown.
• Anger should be shown when she exceeds the boundaries of Allah SWT, by delaying prayers etc...
• Forgive the mistakes she does to you.

PARDONING AND APPROPRIATE CENSURE

• Accounting her only for larger mistakes.
• Forgive mistakes done to her but account her for mistakes done in Allah's rights, e.g. delaying prayers etc...
• Remember all the good she does whenever she makes a mistake.
• Remember that all humans err so try to find excuses for her such as maybe she is tired, sad, having her monthly cycle or that her commitment to Islam is growing.
• Avoid attacking her for the bad cooking of the food as the Prophet PBUH never blamed any of his wives for this. If he likes the food, he eats and if he doesn't then he does not eat and does not comment.
• Before declaring her to be in error, try other indirect approaches that are more subtle than direct accusations.
• Escape from using insults and words that may hurt her feelings.
• When it is necessary to discuss a problem wait until you have privacy from others.
• Waiting until the anger has subsided a bit can help to keep a control on your words.

THE END...wallahualam!